Knowing full well that not asking is self-cultivation, seeing through without saying is wisdom (profound)

/July 2022

Han Yu said: "if everything is not even, it will sound."

when people encounter grievances and grievances, people will inevitably shout, "if they are aggrieved, they will cry".

but once you have passed the age of a good thing and precipitated the vicissitudes of the years, it seems that you are more submissive and less frivolous.

the reason why I no longer speak easily is that if I understand it, I don't have to ask; if I see through it, I don't want to say more.


knowing not to ask is reasonable

A Dream of Red Mansions has a co-named couplet: "the world is enlightened and learned, and human experience is an article."

the upper couplet says "knowing" and the lower couplet says "don't ask".

those who are knowledgeable about the world know the cold and warm of the world, while those who are skillful in human feelings do not embarrass others.

sometimes sarcasm asking questions is more chilling than recrimination.

as long as you know other people's shortcomings, you don't have to expose them. If you can't heal an unhealed wound, don't sprinkle salt.

in the adult world, face can be looked down upon by oneself, but one cannot but leave three points to others.

know people do not have to say all, blame people do not have to be harsh, know people do not judge people, do not make trouble.

Cai Gentan said: "Don't blame others for their mistakes, don't be private, and don't think about people's old evils."

everyone has self-esteem, but not everyone knows how to take good care of it.

maybe your sentence is innocuous, it is a bloody storm elsewhere; maybe your sentence is a rivet in other people's heart.

you don't want to be in an awkward situation, and others don't want to be timid.

the best way to be reasonable is not to ask a sad person how sad he is, but to be quietly by his side when he is sad.

in the Book of morality, it is said that "those who know do not speak, those who speak do not know". Ignorance leads to suspicion only when they know that they naturally do not ask.


learn to sit on the sidelines

in the past, Hanshan asked Gidi: "the world slandered me, deceived me, humiliated me, laughed at me, despised me, hated me, lied to me, how to deal with it?"

pick up the cloud: "just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, bear him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few more years and look at him."

see through half of the people, laugh and scold; those who see through everything, stand on the sidelines.

if you have the state of mind of "stay a few more years and see him", you will not be afraid that the villain will be proud and the gentleman will be dismayed for the time being.

at the time of Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty, there was a famous scholar-- Zhang Shun.

at that time, relying on the favor of Yang Guifei, Yang Guozhong, a relative of the royal family, devoted herself to the government and opposition, covering the sky with one hand.

for the sake of an official and a part-time post, many people try their best to curry favor with Yang Guozhong as a patron.

only Zhang Xun ignored it, saying, "the iceberg is hard to rely on, and there will always be a day of melting."

sure enough, the good times did not last long. Yang Guozhong was retrograde, angry and resentful, and was mutilated and mutilated in the an-Shi Rebellion.

Zhang, who has been so excluded, has long seen through the current situation, was discouraged, and returned to Hidden Linquan.

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in the Book of morality, it is said: "the wind does not end, showers do not last all day."

the storm is amazing in the eyes of ordinary people, but in the eyes of the wise, it is fleeting and fleeting.

Don't jump to conclusions just by looking at the hustle and bustle in front of your eyes. Wise people are far-sighted and know how to look at each other coldly.

the ancients said: "look at people with cold eyes and listen to words in a cold ear". It is extraordinary wisdom to see through and not break lightly.

Zhuangzi said: "there is great beauty in heaven and earth, but there is a clear law at 04:00, and all things are reasonable but not said."

language expression is limited after all, and what's more, it can only be understood and indescribable.

it is more reasonable not to ask than to ask; to see through without saying anything is better than to stand on the sidelines with cold eyes.

in life, it is better to be calm and speechless than to be impatient and talk too much.