The best relationship is to be harmonious but different.
the ancients said:
"the real monk never passes through the world."
when people are alive, there is no need to be angry at other people's mistakes.
because there are all kinds of things in life, there are thousands of changes, and everyone has their own standards of behavior.
respecting the differences of others is our lifelong practice.
the real pattern is to respect other people's differences and tolerate other people's mistakes.
there is a saying in "Kill a Mockingbird":
unless you put on a person's shoes and walk around like him, you will never really know a person. "
everyone is an independent individual, which is destined for us to always look at the world from our own point of view.
everyone has different experiences and backgrounds, which makes a completely different life.
what you think, but what you think, does not represent the truth of the matter.
as Fitzgerald said:
"whenever you want to criticize others, remember that not everyone has conditions like you."
the world is never just what we see, there are many things we can't imagine, so don't judge a person easily.
I have seen such a story:
A little boy asked her mother:
"the widow Wang in front of the village is fierce and stingy, why do other people always associate with her?"
the mother said:
"because there are many things in front of the widow's door, in order to protect her reputation, you have to be a little fierce in order to get rid of those who have bad intentions. You have to call her Aunt Wang."
the little boy continued:
"aren't the other aunts afraid of being scolded?"
it is said that she always takes advantage of her neighbors. "
the mother touched the little boy's head and said:
"Sister Wang's husband has died and the only labor force in the family is gone. She is a weak woman and has to take care of two crying children. The neighbors around her deliberately let her.
after you finish your meal, help me give this pumpkin to your Aunt Wang, just say it's the rice you borrowed before. "
there are all kinds of things in the world, although joys and sorrows can not be the same, but feelings can be in harmony.
when others have difficulties, we can choose to be considerate and help.
because I know how to respect, I can think of others and look at things from the point of view of others.
if you judge whether it is good or bad only from your own point of view, it is like a blind man touching an elephant, touching an elephant's leg and talking about an elephant and a pillar.
A person with a pattern can see the essence through the surface of things and know how to understand and respect the differences of others.
the best relationship is harmony but difference
Russell once said:
"you should know that the diversity of life is the source of happiness."
everyone's life trajectory is different, and their lifestyles and hobbies are also different.
it's like some people think cilantro smells good, while others think it stinks.
A philosopher once said:
"in this world, half people are happy, the other half don't understand."
in the face of other people's hobbies and choices, we should respect other people's choices even if we can't agree with them.
there is a newly married couple, the man is not spicy, but the woman can't eat spicy.
at first, they often quarreled because it was too hot or not.
later, they no longer ate together, but ate separately.
once, a woman went back to her mother's house for dinner.
she found a bowl of water in front of her father and put the dishes in it before eating.
Father's taste is lighter, and my mother likes to eat salty.
the woman finished her meal without a word.
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after going home, the woman fried several dishes according to the man's taste and waited for the man to have dinner together after work.
when eating, the woman also put a bowl of water in front of her, picked up the dishes and placed them in the water.
the man kept on eating without saying anything.
the next day, the woman came back from work to find the man cooking in the kitchen, but this time it was not spicy at all.
when eating, the man put a plate of hot sauce in front of him, picked up the food and dipped it in it.
A lot of people meet and finally go their separate ways because of the small details of life.
what we should do is to respect each other's habits and hobbies, just like the couple in the story.
Kant once said:
"I respect any independent soul, although I do not agree with some, but I can understand as much as possible."
it is impossible for two people to live together, and the best way to maintain a relationship is to respect and accept each other.
Life is so long that we can't impose our will on others at any time.
people with large patterns who know how to be harmonious but different can be accommodated even if their views are diametrically opposed.
people with a large pattern can tolerate everything
Norwegian psychologist Nodesk once put forward the "psychological diffraction theory".
means that people's attention is limited, and if you focus on one thing at the same time, you are bound to ignore other things.
think about it.